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You Will Succeed... By Defeating Your 11 Demons

DEMON #1 - You Never Act On The Information You Read In Self-Help Books

Go out and buy a book with the intention of actually 'using' it, rather than just reading it.

The Science of Success is as good a starting point as any...I have made each of the 142 steps as simple as possible to understand and apply. If you have one of those printers that can print multiple pages on one sheet of paper - then SofS is easily readable at 4 pages per A4 page.Check it out here - http://www.sofsuccess.com?f=ns5

DEMON # 2 - You Can Never Imagine Yourself As A Success

My life has changed dramatically since I started to thinking of myself as a 'Success'...rather than thinking of myself as someone who would never quite make it.

Spend 5 minutes every night focusing on where you want to be...and not where you have been.

DEMON # 3 - You'd Rather Watch Television Than Work On Your Personal Development

We spend more time thinking about what we want to watch on TV...than what we want to do with our future.

If you want to succeed at anything...you need to learn how to do it from those who are already doing it.

Do something instead of watching TV! Anything that you can say afterwards that you learned something from.

DEMON # 4 - You Do Not Know EXACTLY Where You Want To Be In Five Years Time

The biggest difference between you and a successful person is FOCUS.

Really think about where you want to be...and every day take a tiny, little step towards it.

And don't forget to WRITE IT DOWN.

DEMON # 5 - You Think That Commuting Time Should Be Spent Reading A Newspaper Or Listening To The Radio

OK, maybe I am being too hard on you...you deserve to have some free time during the day. But don't you get that at lunchtime? Or what about those couple of hours when you 'can't be bothered' after you have finished work?

You either really want to be a success...or you don't.

Choose very carefully!

DEMON # 6 - You Believe That You Should Enjoy Life Whilst You Can

I guarantee that at least 97% of the people who read this will ignore it...and carry on spending and abusing money unnecessarily.

Are YOU one of them?

In order to see the benefit of cutting back on the little outlays of money - at the end of every day put the couple of dollars that you would have spent into a jar, or empty bottle.

After a few weeks of seeing your 'investment in your future' fund grow - it won't be so easy to go back to your old ways.

DEMON # 7 - You Look At What You Can Buy With Your Salary Increase - Not How Much You Can Save

The only cure for this is tell yourself that you got a smaller pay rise than you actually did!

I got such a kick from paying down my debts...as I knew that I was always one step closer to reaching my financial goal.

Pretend that the pay-rises were cut this year - try it. Believe me...once you get into the routine it's not that difficult to keep it up!

DEMON # 8 - You Believe That You Can Only Make Money If You Have Money

Look upon every opportunity as a challenge to your ingenuity. Look at ways to divert money you already spend (and waste) from things you don't really need to things that you need to help you improve.

Go to a library. Borrow any book on self-development. It won't cost you a thing...but if you apply what it says it could be priceless to your future success.

DEMON # 9 - You Worry More About Job Security, Than How Happy You Are.

Always remember...Work to live - never live to work.

When you are 70 what will look back on most with the fondest memories - the 50 hours a week you worked...or the 5 hours a week you really enjoyed life?

I always thought that I was indispensable. I thought that the bank where I worked would fall apart without me. It did for about 2 weeks after my son was born.

4 years later...it's still there! Whatever job you do...get your priorities right!

DEMON # 10 - You Worry What Your Family And Friends Would Think About You If You Read Or Listened To Self-Development Material.

Never miss an opportunity to learn, whatever people may say.

The most successful people in the world are what I call 'Perpetual Students'. They know that the answer is there...they just need to ask the right questions to find it.

Become a student of your own personal development. I have...and it's the best decision I ever made.

Writing 'The Science of Success' opened my eyes to the endless possibilities that are out there...if only you look hard enough.

DEMON # 11 - You Have Something That You Have Always Wanted To Do, But Never Got Around To Doing It. And You Know You Never Will.

Last night I had 4 hours sleep. I finished writing an article at 1 a.m. and my alarm went of at 5 a.m. to begin my next working day.

I'm writing the next chapter of my new ebook today.

What other job would you work at until you practically fall asleep at your desk? (OK apart from mother and housewife!)

Do what you love...
Love what you do...
Get paid for doing it.

Success is as simple as that.

Gary Vurnum
14 June 2007

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Fears: A Detour On The Road To Success

If you are like most people, you are often confronted with fears that hold you back - consciously or subconsciously. Although you weren't born with them, you are under the strong influence of the environment that implanted them. You might even be tempted to think that worry and fear is the primary base from which your actions stem.

Salespeople know of this powerful influence. People buy truckloads of insurance in preparation for some disaster that "might" happen. "It is better to be safe than sorry." Do you have an extra set of keys (or two) for your house or car? Do you buy food, drinks or even pills that will help you improve your complexion or lose unwanted weight?

Whether it is a fear of losing something good, or getting something bad, fear is a driving force that is always there ...

Why does someone behave rudely or arrogantly?

Because he or she is afraid of losing their "feeling of" authoritative power, which would destroy or undermine his or her position in society. You already know where jealousy stems from - out of fear for you, wanting or losing something you think you cannot have or the fear that someone else will get what you feel "belongs to you."

New situations in life force you to confront a new set of fears. You may even comfort yourself by saying it isn't so bad. Have you ever made a doctor's appointment, a dentist appointment or a hairstyling appointment only to arrive in the respective waiting area with no pain or the best hair day you've had in a long time? Now you want to go home. Fear is a powerful motivator.

Some of the more common fears are:
1. Fear of the Unknown
2. Fear of Failure and Rejection
3. Fear of Loss (losing what you have)
4. Fear of Facing Reality
5. Fear of Disapproval

You have to deal with ALL of these fears if you want to succeed.
You cannot deny them or banish them to your subconscious, as that will only add fuel to a fire that will probably and suddenly burst out beyond your control. Like fires, fears are easiest to squelch when they are still small.

Confront your fears and banish them forever!

Start with ...

The Fear of the Unknown
There isn’t a person alive that isn’t apprehensive, nervous or even fearful of entering new territory, wandering into the great unknown.

What will it hold? How will it change you? Will you be able to handle the situation or complete the task? Will you know what to do and have the ability to do it? Will you be laughed at? Will it be worth it?

One way of confronting the unknown is to recognize that without action you will never escape mediocrity. The primary difference between people who fulfill their dreams and those that don’t is action – the former move from words to action, the latter never get beyond the words.

Ask yourself:

What could I lose if I begin to act? Answer frankly. Typical answers are time, pride and so on. You should note that these answers are merely superficial.

What could I gain? An experience that will, without a doubt, make you richer (maybe financially) and one that will bring you closer, above all, to success. You shouldn't forget that it is self-confidence, overcoming your fears and changing your habits or undesirable attributes (like transforming yourself from timid to outgoing) that bring you a step closer to attaining your desires.

I remember a case where a young entrepreneur was taking an exceptionally long time to decide whether to start a new business that excited him, or not, because his mind told him that he wouldn’t succeed. After a conversation we had, he decided to start the business because he felt this was his path. He didn’t succeed; in fact, the results were pretty awful at first.

I was surprised a year later when I received a kind letter from him thanking me for the time I had spent with him. He wrote that he has been a changed man since then and that he is enjoying what he is doing for the first time in his life. He wasn’t doing well, financially, in the beginning, but gradually he built a firm foundation and is now earning well.

“If I hadn’t made the choice and taken that first step,” he added, “I wouldn’t have known that work exists that can bring in both money and pleasure. My first financial failure was a small price to pay for such awareness. More importantly, it enabled me to identify the fear that had been present in all my business and personal decisions in the past. Today, I laugh at the limits I was living under then. Now, I’m happy to meet new challenges and I have been succeeding in everything I do lately.”

In 1991 my partner and I started construction of a large corporate building. We put all of our savings into this project. During that time there was a war in Slovenia and alarms signaling a bomb attack often interrupted our work. People asked me several times if there was any point in continuing construction while the war lasted – what if the building was destroyed? We decided to continue with our project. Had we stopped construction then, maybe that building wouldn’t have been finished until today, if ever. However, by following our own instincts and remaining true to our vision, that building has been serving the purpose it was intended for, for more than ten years.

Is it worth it to miss an opportunity? Think.
If making a decision appears too difficult, take a piece of paper, divide it in half and write out the pros and the cons. More often than not, the “against” side is filled with “circumstantial objections,” like “a lack of self-confidence,” or “I don't have enough money or time.” The substance of these objections cannot compare to the reasons “for” doing something.

Most of your reasons for not doing something are probably based on weak excuses. If you are afraid of doing something, your mind will find a way to make sure that you don't do it, will even stand in your way and prevent you from doing something that it perceives you do not want. Be sure to address all your fears first and then take that piece of paper in your hands once again.

Chase your fears away and consciously decide to take a chance in life. Trust me, it's usually well worth the trouble!
Of course, the decision (as always in life) is still yours.

Boris Vene
21 May 2007

Boris Vene is known as one of the most distinguished European international speakers, motivators and personal coaches in the areas of leadership, communication and development of human potential. He has devoted his life to personal growth and the discovery of human potential. He is now for the first time sharing his vast experiences with the US audience through his new free "The Millionaire Weekly Memo" eZine. Subscribe here: http://www.TheMillionaireMind.net?a2-aa